![]() Have you ever observed a person who is so naturally friendly anytime you put him with a group of strangers, they are friends with almost everyone immediately? Someone unbelievably nice and charismatic that they can charm anyone into accomplishing anything, we assume they are just naturally a people-person. This is not necessarily a natural personality trait. Most have practiced this skill and make it seem effortless. If you practice your social skills and employ them, you will be seen by others as a natural too. If you want to be seen as a natural people-person, then I can't see any reason why you can't succeed. It has a great benefit to you as well as to others in the long run. Here are 10 starter points to help you begin. 1. Be REAL. Hypocrisy will just bring you right down. Be genuinely nice and interested in people. If you are perceived as Mr. or Ms. Hypocrite with selfish goals, others will put distance between you and you will be soon all alone in the corner. 2. Listen up. To earn the love and trust of others, listen to their problems and empathize with them. Do not just hear them out, listen with all your heart. Make eye contact. Give them your complete focus, don’t think about what you are going to say. A few seconds silent pause before your response shows you were listening. 3. Laugh. I do not mean you force yourself to laugh for just any joke. This means finding humor in things instead of being too serious. A person oozing with an awesome spontaneity attracts others and laughter is extremely contagious. Humor is very positive. 4. Don't forget yourself. In the process of fluttering around as a social butterfly, don’t ignore yourself. Remember, love and value yourself, if you deem yourself respectable and worthy of affection, others will recognize that self-confidence, find you to be interesting and want to join you. 5. Do random acts of kindness. Little acts of kindness matters by far the most, and this can be as simple as giving someone some sort of surprise thank you card or holding open a door for someone to pass through. When most of us started school, kindness was taught and greatly practiced. Now would be the time to revive those good deeds and put them back into practice. 6. Contact your good old friends. Sad how some friendships usually are forgotten past graduation, but with technology and social media, you can do something concerning this. Relive the good old days by flipping to your yearbook to check out the great people whom you intend to communicate with again. Adding these old friends on your roster of support peers will definitely make you feel good. 7. Develop your personality. Will you be grouchy, grumpy and generally morose? Whoa, it's not possible to enjoy life with these negative attitudes. Get rid of the awful traits and habits that perpetually hamper your growth. Who wants a grouchy pal anyway? 8. Be confident. Have the ability to stride to the other side of the room and introduce yourself to someone new with a friendly smile. Just remember: be confident, definitely not arrogant. Refer to point 4 above, if needed. 9. Practice anger control. Everyone can experience a moment of anger or frustration, even during a social occasion. The unexpectedness is usually what makes it so awkward. Never throw a tantrum. Be calm and collected. Be adult enough to take control of any situation and transform your anger into something more productive and passive. Nothing will scare folks off quicker and keep them at arms-length, than them believing you are a volcano about to explode! 10. Keep nurturing your romantic relationships. Your relationship with your spouse and children, friends and significant others is too precious for you to neglect them. Go out and have fun. Do things together. Happiness will never fly from your side given that the people who matter the most are close to you. In the end, improving your social skills means transforming into a better and more lovable man or women. It's a win-win situation: others will know they can turn to you anytime and vice versa. Obviously, I have only listed 10 starter points. I welcome your shared insights on any other points that may have been left out of this article.
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8/17/2011 06:23:19 am
Loved your blog. You are so intuitive. Great information. I used to be a shy introvert as many creative people are. I found out that when you focus on the other person and get them talking, you don't have to worry about what you'll say or do. It's great!
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Cynthia A NahinI live in Southwest Michigan and am excited at being able to create and share this blog with you. I hope you return often as I will provide you with many creative concepts that I have learned and put to practice successfully to achieve my end set goals! Believe me, you can do it, too! Blog Archives
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