![]() You are happily going about your daily life and then you are seemingly being blind-sided with drama from different directions! The funny thing about drama is that often it doesn't seem like it comes from one source or one direction...but don't be fooled! The reason you become so caught up and entangled in drama moments and feel so helpless is because you have loss your true perception of what is happening. You cannot control others, but you have complete control over yourself! Like attracts, like! We have had heard this since early school days, and it does apply here too. If you are attracting the harsh effects of attracting drama....you need to step back and take a honest inventory of yourself. The emotional effects of drama in your life are extremely stressful! Confusion, mood swings, depression, irritability, tired, feeling of loneliness, etc. You begin to suffer loss of friends or family due to miscommunications. Do you really want to keep attracting these kind of effects into your life? Take control of yourself! Are you an attention seeker? People pleaser? Enjoy playing the ‘poor lil victim’ card? If you are constantly asking, " Why me?" then you need to realize that you opened the doors yourself to attract the drama and drama players to enter into your life. You have to be honest with yourself. Believe me, I understand it can be a slap in the face to realize you are responsible and in control of all of your choices in life, at first. RESPONSIBILITY, is a big word. It can make the child within us all cringe at the sight of it, no matter how old we are! Then, when it fully seeps in, you begin to realize the power you have to change your life and break the negative cycles! You begin to take charge of your life and make choices, knowing you are responsible for the outcome. That it is a very positive word that's just had really bad publicity. Those choices are made in what you say, how you think, what you do, where you go, etc. Ultimately, you establish a habit of responsibly handling situations as they arise and develop. You begin to learn from your past mistakes, and process these lessons learned into positive future decisions. As I stated earlier, you cannot control others, but you will limit the attractive pull of drama. You will find that drama will decrease dramatically in your life too. Others may try to draw you back in, but once again, you have a choice...you are in control. You will be amazed that you used to get so caught up in the past drama, when you view it from this different perspective. So, today, dig deep and be honest with yourself. Don't beat yourself up or feel guilty. You are human. Humans make mistakes. It is time to learn from them and put those lessons to use. Focus on your choices and how they may have brought about the negative result. What would have been the better option? Be honest with yourself. Now, let the past go. It can't be changed. Imagine yourself in the future handling a similar situation, this time you handle it the alternative positive way. Do you feel more confident with this result? If not, imagine another alternative that brings a sense of positive energy or a boost of confidence in your choice. By imagining this process, you will be more confident when the time for a decision is to be made in your future. Today you can begin applying a new outlook and change the way you make decisions. You can have a more successful, happy, drama-free future!
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5/18/2012 07:02:54 am
Cindy, frankly, I avoid drama through indifference. I know I can't fix other people's problems, so I leave them free to fix their own,
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Cynthia A Copenhaver
5/18/2012 11:30:12 am
NP it is true that some caught up in drama just want to drag you in too...if they are not ready to take control of it themselves, you may have to be indifferent to maintain your self control.
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5/18/2012 07:23:19 am
You are so right in saying "You cannot control others, but you have complete control over yourself!"
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5/18/2012 11:11:40 am
great post, Cindy! i used to be a drama magnet until i had a revelation similar to what you've described above. now, i try to leave the drama to all those drama kings and queens out there!
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